Wednesday, February 24, 2010

What Do You Think???

What is the right thing to do? Etiquette wise?
Is the there a proper Etiquette on Facebook photos?

I post old photos of friends on Facebook as well as family photos. And If someone in the photo is a "friend" I tag them.
I think it's fun to see the old photos from when we were kids and teens. I wish more of my "friends" did that. I sent an email to a group of ladies that I've know since kinneygarten to add any that they may have from birthday parties, skatin' parties, slumber parties...anything.
I even told them that I didn't care if the photo was unflatterin' to me....I put it all out there as it is so I really doubt they can do any worse.
My profile photo at Halloween was me in my bunnysuit....with my pink ears...some thought I had a penis on my head!
And from a certain angel... from the gutter that they were in... it look exactly like that!!
And really we are what we are....whether we are dressed to the nines with our girl faces on or with a blue icin' stained mouth, or me with my constance scowl....that's how we are.
People see us every day like that... Even with the ass end of our jeans ripped open.
Roy tells all the time, "Smile. You look like you could kill something."
It's just me.
Go look at my profile photo right now. I'm 10 months old in that photo. And I have a scowl on my face!!
We are what we are....we have to come to terms with ourselves.

Wait. I think I lost my point.
Sorry.

So I posted photos of my stepkids....and tagged them.
I stepped over a line and added them as "children". I knew that would be too much for them.
Actually one accepted the jester only for him to change it later....which I get. I'm not his mom. No Harm. No Foul.
I opened myself up to let them see where they stand.
I haven't seen my stepdaughter in 3 years. That's her choice.
She talks to her father on the phone but that's it. She's had some issues to work thru....and we are not in the loop.
Our choice.

Anyway....
So I tagged RoyJr in some photos. Some where in the last couple of months, he "untagged" himself.
That hurt... These are not embarrassin' photos.
But yet... I didn't flip out.
He's had issues with a girlfriend that is also in the photos ...and a "friend".
One day they're engaged and the next they are not... currently, not.
So I can see if he "untagged" himself to avoid her. I have since moved her to a group that can not see any of my photos... but I can sp...ahhh...."monitor" the relationship.

The Photos...Do I just let it slide?
Do I say anything to Roy?
He won't understand the whole taggin' and untaggin' thing but he will understand the rejection that I feel.
I understood when a young man "untagged" himself from a photo that I have of him as a child with my sister becuz he was runnin' for office. He didn't tell me.
That makes total sense.
I don't understand why a member of the softball team untagged herself.
I'm Clueless. And she didn't tell me either.

Should they say something to me?
I would not be mad...unless they were tacky with me. I would understand if they were gettin' a divorce and needed to lay low or avoidin' an abusive spouse or runnin' for office.

What do you think?


Later we'll discuss the Etiquette of Emails.

Class dismissed.

7 comments:

Tracie said...

don't worry about it, their problem not yours!

MizAngie said...

A LOT of people are uncomfortable with the public exposure of facebook and other social networks. The untagging is probably not a rejection of you but more of a rejection to facebook (or the girlfriend, or whatever). I don't want pix of me anywhere and usually the only pix of me are taken as I'm ducking behind something to hide from the camera. Anyway, I believe that having your picture on display is a personal decision, especially semi-current pix. But, my philosophy only leaves you with two options - (1) Do what you wanna and post whatever, or (2) Don't post any pix at all except of yourself. So, do whatever makes you feel good and then disregard any unfavorable responses. Decide what you wanna do and then OWN it.

Becca said...

You are over thinking it. Let it go, it really isn't your issue. It is theirs. Life is too short for the what ifs...

LM said...

I untagged myself from a photo because it was GOD AWFUL UGLEEEE!!!

I clicked on your blog from the Bird's blessings post. :o)

Katy said...

I think people un-tag themsevles because they don't like the picture or they don't like the people they're with. It's not about you--it's about them.

♥Georgie♥ said...

I have to laugh NOT at you OR at the question but rather because I just untagged a photo of myself that my sister uploaded on fb b/c I literally looked like a drunk fat cow and i wasnt even drunk...I mean she could have posted the photo she took of me a mere 45mins later when I WAS drunk ...

Gina (Mannyed) said...

I'm not a big fan of having people tag me in photos. I usually just let "Friends only" see my photos and if other people tag me, I don't have that same control. and if I untag myself from a photo, it doesn't really have anything to do with the tagger. Just my perference.