I have been thinkin' about this for awhile....Trying to get it sorted out in my mind. At some point in our lives we all must do it!
When do you let your children live their lives??
Stop givin' them advice?
Stop toleratin' bad behaviour?
Stop sendin' money?
I know if a woman that still has a son that lives at home...he's 23. He is abusive to his mother and threatened to kill her pets. She has gotten a restrainin' order against him. But I don't see how that is goin' to work.....they live together!!
And that is the problem....he won't go away!
Another couple have put their daughter in rehab....she's 23. They are paying for it. I understand them wantin' to help her get her life back together. The husband is so bitter about it....he has said things that are so selfish about the ordeal....after rehab he's cuttin' her loose! "She's on her own!"
I agree to a point. There comes a time when your child has to live their own life. They have to stand on their own two feet!
But when is that time??
I had to let go of my girls at an early age....there wasn't anything I could do.....only one speaks to me....and when she does it's "Mom, I have news."
"Let me sit down for this."
"Oh Mom! It's good news! I'm pregnant!"
Shit!!!! Shit!!!!! Shit!!!!
No tears fell this time.
No long speeches.
I just take a deep breath.....let it out.....It's not good news to find out your unmarried daughter is pregnant for the 3rd time!
The UnMarried thing is my fault or to my credit....depends on which side you take....I didn't want her tied down to a loser.....he won't work....what a dumbass!!! She has to learn on her own she deserves better!
I have let her live her own life.....make her own mistakes.....let her fall down....help her up, dust her off and send her on her way!
It's all I can do!!